The “Value” of a Feed

I love life?... I love it not?

I love life?… I love it not?

I am recalling the song, “Dirty Laundry” by Don Henley, where those who gather and report the news are like one voracious creature who can’t get enough dirt of the seditious variety to devour and regurgitate upon the land of the hungry ignorant masses.

News is a social bridge connecting one perception of reality with another. It is intended to supply our minds with more second hand energy that can be fed upon. Feeds are internal judgments based on perceptions of right/wrong and good/bad. Our perceptions are just that… our own, and do not express what others perceive, although agreement tends to indicate a match. Those “iffy” areas of “grey” are worthy snack feeds. Micro scrutinizing is a conservative way of tapping into the feed flow if you are bored or in a hurry… like sipping at your drink instead of gulping it down.

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Coulda Woulda Shoulda

No one is safe from a defensive shadow!

No one is safe from a defensive shadow!

“If only” and “what if” are often associated with coulda, woulda and shoulda by playing a part in the regret. Coulda, woulda and shoulda such seemingly innocuous words are often used to create a powerful feed. Those three little words can twist possibilities into absolutes by making what didn’t happen a huge mistake and what might happen a potential disaster.

A good feed begins with the feeder agreeing or disagreeing with the feedee, who is defending their chosen reality. The challenge to one’s reality will always bring up defense.   Feedees feed on not being good enough while the feeders,  like any predator, feeds on being better than others. Artificially generated claims of knowing and understanding another’s experience all bring on the feast by sheer need to prove validity of reality.

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Married to a Feeder

Feeding can be smooth but strangely unsatisfying.

Feeding can be smooth but strangely unsatisfying.

I’m married to a feeder and so is she. We’ve been together for quite some time and I love her deeply. I’ve given my life over to US rather than ME and I like it quite a bit.

So, where’s the feed for us feeders?

Human interaction is a feeder’s delight. No matter how well humans communicate, there is always miscommunication and tension. Yes, that’s right – TENSION. Marriage, the bringing together of two (very different) human beings “for life” means a lifetime of tension. Oh, yes, it’s not all daisies and roses and cupcakes for breakfast. Marriage is TENSE and REWARDING. Huh? Tense AND rewarding? How’s that?

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