Frustration, IMO is the hindering of human potential through the binding of hopes and dreams to stubbornness and pride.
Stop the feed by stopping the need!
It would appear that humans have developed an ability to hold conflicting or counter balancing concepts simultaneously. The heart communicating in one language and the mind in another. The earth, with its complements of balancing opposites, gives humans and other life forms a choice of how to view life through a kaleidoscope of systems . Choices however, from a logical point of view only confuses people. What we get daily at least in the western world, is a barrage of chances to be right, over and over. Being wrong is also a strong possibility, but acknowledging failure to be right rather than a harmony of two voices finding harmony by meeting in the middle, but a language of perceptual logic intending to dominate the other language, that of the heart and therefore the body as well. The heart has acted as the interpreter through physical support for the mental construct’s will, for a very long time. In a perfect world, the heart could express hopes and dreams and the mind would support the heart. Just recently, within the last few hundred years, a kind of push pull energy has been going on between the mental construct, associated with masculine energy and feelings from the heart and body, associated with the female energy. Perhaps the roles of women in various societies is symbolic evidence of the changes that are beginning to take place in our own mind/heart, body systems. In spite of our use of imagination and sophisticated development of justification and judgment,
The idea of the heart being equal in leadership ability with the mind is still very controversial. This is why frustration is such an untapped resource.
When humans move beyond a need to control others and dominate their own feelings, We will begin to balance our own energy and end the energy draining problem, that are unrestricted feeding stations at this time.
So, in a nutshell, you’re saying that frustration is pretty much here to stay, then. AND, I read you saying that there is a glimmer of possibility we might someday break out of its grip – there’s hope for us yet. Further, you’ve intimated a possible solution with the concept of letting go of the NEED to be right.
It occurs to me that some frustration is generated when we don’t meet our own expectations – of our behavior, our capabilities, our needs, our relationships, etc. That kind of frustration might be lessened by letting go of needing to MEET EXPECTATIONS. However!!! In doing so, we might also lessen the probabilities of achieving anything in our lives. For most of us, non-achievement is the ultimate frustration – so maybe frustration is a self-perpetuating loop. Egad!
I agree that frustration is generated by our own thoughts. Based on judgments, they often turn out to be expectations. The feed loop is potentially endless – at least until the perpetrator wakes up to their self imprisonment.
Stubbornness is one of the toughest characteristics to recognize in myself but easy to spot in others, depending upon our level of agreement, of course. The stubbornness is hidden by pride – and pride that sense of self-rightness is our jailer in disguise.
I do believe there is still hope for improvements and liberation from the feed.
Waking up is usually experienced through the application of pain and discomfort. The most profound wake-up calls have included the most severe sufferings. Unfortunately, very few individuals learn and awaken without this physically energetic motivator.
Capability does mean probability. I would like to see more education on the subject of feeders – to make people aware of a need to be awake and aware of their thoughts and connections in order to repel feeding.
Stubbornness – wow – tough subject! I totally agree with you that stubbornness is far easier to recognize in others than in myself. It reminds me of the old psych standard,
“So, when did you start hating your mother?”
“I never hated my mother!!”
“So, how long have you been in denial about your feelings?”
I recall being grilled like this when we went through Impact years ago (Impact was a high stress, face-in-your-face type of personal growth and empowerment training – it was, uh, “confrontive” to say the least). I stubbornly held onto the belief that I’ve never hated my mother – which, apparently, I’m still in denial about… 😉
I’m sure you recall more such illustrations of our “stubbornness.”
I guess what I’m getting around to saying is that stubbornness could be simply a perceptual judgment held with conviction OR it could be an unwillingness to “go with the flow” and let go of whatever is holding us back.
I say it’s tough because it is SO difficult to distinguish from other forms of belief adherence – i.e., scientifically arrived at conclusions, life conditioning (experiential learning), politico-religious views, and the like – you know, the points upon which we base our “arguments”, our “truths” – some of which are bound to be correct (at least for us).
OTOH – and perhaps more to the point —
Stubbornness could be a chemical imbalance in the brain created externally (environmentally). If this were the case, one could very convincingly argue that unseen “feeders” could very easily trigger stubbornness behavior – and thus generate loads of frustration and defense energy inherent in defending our position when no defense is necessary.
What do you think?