There are times when things seem to be going well. I like those times. Serene, comfortable, easy… nice. BUT! (there’s always a butt)
It never seems to fail, something or someone will go haywire and require me to come to the aid. It doesn’t seem to me that I caused this problem. I see no direct evidence of my involvement in its creation. It’s not my fault!
And yet, a problem is in my lap and I have to deal with it. My serenity is disrupted, my inner peace is disrupted, and my mood is disrupted. And for what? Somebody else’s problem!
What the f*** is going on here? Why can’t life just flow along smoothly without disruption?
It eats at me now and then. Hmmm? Could that be a hint?
Could it be that when I’m in the midst of my own dramas, I don’t clean up well afterwards? Could I be leaving scraps behind? Maybe. Likely. Yes, okay, I’ll admit that I sometimes do that – I sometimes leave scraps behind and don’t clean up properly. There, I’ve said it.
And yet, there are times when I’m sure I’m intent on NOT creating drama while I’m wading knee deep in it. Why? Or, rather, “why me?”
It seems that even when I’m happy to stay out of other people’s dramas, I can’t help but get caught up in them. It would appear I’m happy to feed on their table scraps. Even when I’m not hungry!
And what about those scraps I’ve left behind? What of them? Are they being placed on someone else’s table? Or am I finding them on my own table? Yum yum yum…
LOL, perhaps both are the case. We are dualistic creatures, meaning we like having complements in our world and in our personal lives. The words compliment and complement have two different meanings – compliment, spelled with an “i” is a way of being supportive, whereas, complement spelled with an “e” is the main component for balance between support and opposition, like the hinges of a door, the switch for the light, etc.
A challenge to our thoughts and behaviors, like a system of checks and balances can be exciting and renewing to one’s outlook. Seeking after support for our choices can be as rewarding as finding opposition to those choices, simply because of the need for complements – you know: the Yen to my Yang, the icing on my cake, the light to my dark, etc.
The unrest of a feed consists of three main parts:
Each is an important aspect to the preparation and indulgence of a feed.
Taking accountability for my own engagement in a feed can bring on the biggest feed of all: that of defending my reasons for the whole process – like whipped cream on the sundae as it were.
It would seem that the window of consciousness is often too small to shed sufficient light on how and why the conflict became more important than connections involved in it.
You’ve previously written about resistance, which is the essence of conflict. Resistance is what makes light perceptible. Personal conflict may be our natural mechanism for perception – we set up resistance so we can have an experience.
As to complements, I wonder if the complement of resistance is the perception of it – meaning resistance is of no value without perception and perception is of no value without resistance. Perhaps they are “blood brothers”, twins, married, complementary.
Well said!