{"id":1235,"date":"2012-03-03T04:18:26","date_gmt":"2012-03-03T04:18:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/?p=1235"},"modified":"2012-03-06T20:20:18","modified_gmt":"2012-03-06T20:20:18","slug":"controlling-feeding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/controlling-feeding","title":{"rendered":"Controlling Feeding"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What if this dimension could expand to include other dimensions, would we be able to handle it? What if this would require our letting go of the judgments of right\/wrong, or good\/bad? Could we let go of something that is as normal to us as breathing? How do you just stop doing what you believe you have to do? It seems impossible!<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;Stop comparing things in terms of right or wrong, good or bad? No way I&#8217;m doing that!!&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I consider myself a fair (good\/right) person, I only call things the way they are, the way my mind and heart tell me to.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;How wrong can that be?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Humans instruct their young as early as possible to think good\/ bad, right\/ wrong. Among the first impressions human children get from their world are based on negative adult response, i.e., &#8220;Stop that,&#8221; &#8220;Don&#8217;t do that,&#8221; &#8220;Shame on you,&#8221; &#8220;That&#8217;s a no no, &#8220;That&#8217;s a bad boy!&#8221;, etc..<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->Studies have shown that children experience the energy of NO many more times per day than yes. We go so far as to tell our little ones they should know better, they need to be and do better or that they are wrong because of their words or behaviors. If we could separate the child&#8217;s behavior from who they are, making it clear that we want to help them in their success, maybe we as humans wouldn&#8217;t carry so much guilt, shame and blame (emotional saboteurs).<\/p>\n<p>These emotional saboteurs are what feeds frustration by trying to convince the reasoning mind that impossible judgments about the self are true. The frustration is like a time warp that pops our minds, in a distorted way, back to the times we felt helpless and hopeless. Being told you are something you are not and believing such unfair comments to be true is the creation point of self destruction.<\/p>\n<p>Such internal creations are strung together through time and justifications to all the other moments of self destruction and form a chain. When we let our minds play among the chains of negative thoughts,,\u00a0 frustration is born and the mind is bound by emotions held in limbo until we learn the ways of breaking free from this negative feed chains.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What if this dimension could expand to include other dimensions, would we be able to handle it? What if this would require our letting go of the judgments of right\/wrong, or good\/bad? Could we let go of something that is &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/controlling-feeding\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1235","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-thoughts-on-feeding"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1235","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1235"}],"version-history":[{"count":21,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1235\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1242,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1235\/revisions\/1242"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1235"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1235"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/carol.bennette.org\/feeders\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1235"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}